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Ok here's the situation. During BBQ party for this Chinese club I'm in, a group of us went to get some yogurt and boba. When we were introducing each other, I saw this one uber cute girl. Anyway, long story short, I found out she's in one of my classes. Thus began my work.
Weeks later, through sitting with her every day of class and talking to her on facebook, I think the message is no. She doesn't reply to me anymore on facebook and she seems to be avoiding me for three days of class now. Perhaps I was too forceful, I can take a hint, but I'm going to keep on trying.
EDIT: As I was writing this, she finally replied. Perhaps I still have hope. So I'm going to keep working on her, but it might take more time than I thought...
Now, this is where it gets complicated. As some of from IRC might know, I do dance practice for another club from 8 PM to (possibly 4AM). Anyway, after one practice (after the bbq party), I went to go get some boba. After I got my drink, I walked outside and saw this one girl from the dance practice. She said, "come sit with me." So, I was like sure. I acted like I was looking for friendship, but damn (excuse the slur)! Yeah, that was uneventful, but it left a huge impact on me. I was talking to my dating guru roommate about it and he said this happens to guys. Guys apparently always go for more than one. I tried not to face this fact, but it stung. So I was like whatever, I'll probably forget about her. Then I saw her again on Sunday at the same place eating dinner with her friends outside of practice. In commons, I usually try to spot people I know. Now, every time I see a dyed blond, I look for her. At my last practice, I was dancing in front of her row. I kept looking back just to act as if I'm spacing by looking at the feet, but I know I want to look at her. I was talking about my roommate earlier today, he said it's love. >.<
So, the question of my thread is, who should I go for? If any other information is needed, please ask away like what do they look like.
I wanted to make a poll for this.
Weeks later, through sitting with her every day of class and talking to her on facebook, I think the message is no. She doesn't reply to me anymore on facebook and she seems to be avoiding me for three days of class now. Perhaps I was too forceful, I can take a hint, but I'm going to keep on trying.
EDIT: As I was writing this, she finally replied. Perhaps I still have hope. So I'm going to keep working on her, but it might take more time than I thought...
Now, this is where it gets complicated. As some of from IRC might know, I do dance practice for another club from 8 PM to (possibly 4AM). Anyway, after one practice (after the bbq party), I went to go get some boba. After I got my drink, I walked outside and saw this one girl from the dance practice. She said, "come sit with me." So, I was like sure. I acted like I was looking for friendship, but damn (excuse the slur)! Yeah, that was uneventful, but it left a huge impact on me. I was talking to my dating guru roommate about it and he said this happens to guys. Guys apparently always go for more than one. I tried not to face this fact, but it stung. So I was like whatever, I'll probably forget about her. Then I saw her again on Sunday at the same place eating dinner with her friends outside of practice. In commons, I usually try to spot people I know. Now, every time I see a dyed blond, I look for her. At my last practice, I was dancing in front of her row. I kept looking back just to act as if I'm spacing by looking at the feet, but I know I want to look at her. I was talking about my roommate earlier today, he said it's love. >.<
So, the question of my thread is, who should I go for? If any other information is needed, please ask away like what do they look like.
I wanted to make a poll for this.
| QUOTE (MillionDaggers @ Oct 31 2007, 09:34 AM) |
| and you feel the same about both of them? |
It's hard to say...but I'll say I do feel the same for now. I mean I have much more in common with the former which is what I like, but the latter is driving me nuts.
well with the first girl, you've actually gone out to try and attain her. for the second one it seems pretty fast, and like you said 'she's driving you nuts'. Now I dont know how well you know either of them, but in my opinion the first girl seems like love, the second, infatuation
EDIT: k now i actually gotta go, good luck dude
EDIT: k now i actually gotta go, good luck dude
Don't listen to your roommate about the love thing. Love isn't something you stumble on through talking with someone once and seeing them regularly for a short time like you have. Sure, you've got an attraction towards them - they're cute. Love is a bit more complex than that. It's easy to "follow your nose", if you get what I mean.
He's right about the thing regarding guys and women. In my experience its either been no one's interested or every girl (a couple of handfuls, pun intended) wants me.
The worst part about this is you'll never know who you feel more for until you have something with them. I know since coming to college girls are more open to hookups in general than committing to a relationship just because they think you're cute and wanna make out with you; at least most are. There are still some of the clingy types. But I digress.
It's one thing to find a cute girl and talk to her and all that stuff - being in class with her means there are some common interests (unless its one of those first year classes and everybody's gotta take em). The other girl in the dance class has got to have somewhat similar interests because you've got some sort of connection there already (artistic, perhaps - not sure what you'd call it). It's really hard to do something with a girl your dating when she wants to do something that you have no interest in or vice versa. I'm not saying everything needs to line up, but having common interests and being able to talk about something you feel passionately about helps.
There's this really cute girl in my Early Modern Europe class that is really cute and gives me these great smiles. Is she interested in me? Probably not - she's very nice and smiles at everyone. Even if she were interested in me, I know her well enough where I'd have some issues with her were we to date or anything - but she's a great person to know.
I'm the kind of guy that observes people very easily and can pick up on how they are and what kind of mannerisms they may have - a girl I work with in the office here (who flirts way too much to not be interested in me...) asked me if I was psychic when I told her something about herself after meeting her one Wednesday and making the observation a week later. I had been staring her down prior to the statement, so I said "you can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes" and she said "I won't look at your eyes anymore, then" and then laughed.
Girls like to enjoy themselves - but one of the best ways for them to think they're having a great time with you is if you listen a lot. That doesn't mean don't talk, but try engaging conversations with these girls and listen and get a feel for who they are (I'm not saying you haven't). Jokes are always good - if you're with a girl that can't laugh at or with you regarding your humor, any time you think of something funny you're going to have to drown the notion. It kinda sucks.
Anyways - hope some of this helps. Girls are crazy. But we like to touch them. So it evens out.
He's right about the thing regarding guys and women. In my experience its either been no one's interested or every girl (a couple of handfuls, pun intended) wants me.
The worst part about this is you'll never know who you feel more for until you have something with them. I know since coming to college girls are more open to hookups in general than committing to a relationship just because they think you're cute and wanna make out with you; at least most are. There are still some of the clingy types. But I digress.
It's one thing to find a cute girl and talk to her and all that stuff - being in class with her means there are some common interests (unless its one of those first year classes and everybody's gotta take em). The other girl in the dance class has got to have somewhat similar interests because you've got some sort of connection there already (artistic, perhaps - not sure what you'd call it). It's really hard to do something with a girl your dating when she wants to do something that you have no interest in or vice versa. I'm not saying everything needs to line up, but having common interests and being able to talk about something you feel passionately about helps.
There's this really cute girl in my Early Modern Europe class that is really cute and gives me these great smiles. Is she interested in me? Probably not - she's very nice and smiles at everyone. Even if she were interested in me, I know her well enough where I'd have some issues with her were we to date or anything - but she's a great person to know.
I'm the kind of guy that observes people very easily and can pick up on how they are and what kind of mannerisms they may have - a girl I work with in the office here (who flirts way too much to not be interested in me...) asked me if I was psychic when I told her something about herself after meeting her one Wednesday and making the observation a week later. I had been staring her down prior to the statement, so I said "you can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes" and she said "I won't look at your eyes anymore, then" and then laughed.
Girls like to enjoy themselves - but one of the best ways for them to think they're having a great time with you is if you listen a lot. That doesn't mean don't talk, but try engaging conversations with these girls and listen and get a feel for who they are (I'm not saying you haven't). Jokes are always good - if you're with a girl that can't laugh at or with you regarding your humor, any time you think of something funny you're going to have to drown the notion. It kinda sucks.
Anyways - hope some of this helps. Girls are crazy. But we like to touch them. So it evens out.
Well, I'm not expert...let alone a veteran but I think that you should just play the field. I'm not saying be a player or something, but you could continue to talk to both girls and see how each relationship goes. There is the thing that you have to do when a serious relationship does start and that is tell the other girl you've been seeing someone.
Arrghh...
Ok, so I'm starting to break down the walls with the first girl. She's starting to open up. Now onto the better (or worse) news.
There's a good chance the latter girls likes me. This is the second time I've ever had a girl I liked like me back. I screwed up badly on the first time. Anyway, I can tell because whenever we do the co-ed piece, she's always next to me in front. However, when she's doing her girl piece, she's on the edge and in the back. There's other hints, but I think that's the biggest one.
Now I have to choose...honestly, I'm thinking about going with the second girl. Or at least try. Then that means, I have to get a friendship with the first girl. I mean I like the first girl, but she's immature sort of. She's only cute too. The second girl might like me and is hawt. I think we have a winner. Post advice please.
Ok, so I'm starting to break down the walls with the first girl. She's starting to open up. Now onto the better (or worse) news.
There's a good chance the latter girls likes me. This is the second time I've ever had a girl I liked like me back. I screwed up badly on the first time. Anyway, I can tell because whenever we do the co-ed piece, she's always next to me in front. However, when she's doing her girl piece, she's on the edge and in the back. There's other hints, but I think that's the biggest one.
Now I have to choose...honestly, I'm thinking about going with the second girl. Or at least try. Then that means, I have to get a friendship with the first girl. I mean I like the first girl, but she's immature sort of. She's only cute too. The second girl might like me and is hawt. I think we have a winner. Post advice please.
Go for the hawt one that might like you back. Of course, you can't be 100% certain, but you can always try and see further, like talking to her and trying to find any more clues. It might just be flirting or something.
Try for a friendship with the first, though if she opens up to you, and the second doesn't like you, see if she likes you. I prefer cute ones, because the hawt ones tned to tease me a lot. :(
Try for a friendship with the first, though if she opens up to you, and the second doesn't like you, see if she likes you. I prefer cute ones, because the hawt ones tned to tease me a lot. :(
Update time...
The chances that she likes me go from 50% to 80%. As Jiruru stated on IRC, "That's like, almost double."
At dance practice, she tried to get my attention by conveniently practicing her dance moves in front of me when we weren't doing anything.
Every time I catch her looking at the corner of my eye, I look at her and she looks away.
When we sat down to listen to the coordinators at the end, she chose to sit next to me in the front (typical).
Now, here's the giver. At the end, we place our hands and do our cheer. I place my hand first. Other people put it around my hand, but not on it. She puts her hand on my hand. After we broke off, she took her hand slowly off mine and I kept mine in the center to determine if it was really her.
I'm ecstatic about this. This is like the second time a girl has ever liked me to begin with and the first time a girl has made a move on me...
I'm going to the clubbing event and I'm pretty sure she's going too.
EDIT: As for the latest news. We had a drinking party last night. I sat next to her in this group after she had four shots. I don't drink. So I remember what I said now. Someone was talking to her about her, then I mentioned she's really humble. Then she started talking to me about me from whatever she observed. When she was done talking to me about me, I was about to start asking her about her. Then someone came in the group and said, "let's take a picture lol." By the time she was alone again, she was drunk. I was like...damn. But tonight is the night! Thoughts, comments, advice anyone?
The chances that she likes me go from 50% to 80%. As Jiruru stated on IRC, "That's like, almost double."
At dance practice, she tried to get my attention by conveniently practicing her dance moves in front of me when we weren't doing anything.
Every time I catch her looking at the corner of my eye, I look at her and she looks away.
When we sat down to listen to the coordinators at the end, she chose to sit next to me in the front (typical).
Now, here's the giver. At the end, we place our hands and do our cheer. I place my hand first. Other people put it around my hand, but not on it. She puts her hand on my hand. After we broke off, she took her hand slowly off mine and I kept mine in the center to determine if it was really her.
I'm ecstatic about this. This is like the second time a girl has ever liked me to begin with and the first time a girl has made a move on me...
I'm going to the clubbing event and I'm pretty sure she's going too.
EDIT: As for the latest news. We had a drinking party last night. I sat next to her in this group after she had four shots. I don't drink. So I remember what I said now. Someone was talking to her about her, then I mentioned she's really humble. Then she started talking to me about me from whatever she observed. When she was done talking to me about me, I was about to start asking her about her. Then someone came in the group and said, "let's take a picture lol." By the time she was alone again, she was drunk. I was like...damn. But tonight is the night! Thoughts, comments, advice anyone?
OKAY! It's been a while. A lot has happened, but nothing big enough to amount as a next step. So far, I have been playing a zero sum game.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zero_sum
Basically she has not backed away nor have I made a move. However, last night was epic. It was my chance to shine and I neither blew it or took it. Thus the zero sum game.
Last night, everyone in our club went to a bonfire after our meeting. It was pretty chill for the most part. Everyone ate smores and drank lots of soda. Surprisingly everyone had a good time without alcohol except her. I'll get into that soon. We were taking pictures. I noticed she had an open spot next to her. I was like chance moment! So after we took pictures. I lied down behind the line of people. She was at the end of the line. I was chillin and watching the stars. She asked what I was doing and I said I was watching the stars...Anyway! She got a call, stood up and walked away. I was like...hm...When she came back. I could tell she was crying or at least she was disturbed. So she sat down in that "fetal position". I sat next to her and asked, "is everything alright?" She slightly nodded her head. Then I was like, "everything is not alright." Then, the girl sitting on her left was rubbing her back and asking her the same thing. The girl sitting next to her asked her if she wanted to go somewhere else and talk about it. She nodded and they left. I went into a fetal position facepalming myself. The two returned later and sat down. She kept to herself most of the night. Other guys asked what was wrong, but she didn't reply. I decided to give her space. Before I was leaving she asked someone for a smoke. She doesn't smoke, but she really wanted a drink or anything to relieve stress. I felt bad. So bad, that that night, I had a nightmare where I drank. It's not the worst thing you can think of, but I don't drink and I woke up feeling sad. I missed my chance to shine.
The next time I see her, I'm giving her a hug and asking how she is feeling. Then I'll be like we all care. I care. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you.
My lady friend told me the secret to women is when they trust you. This was my moment to shine. I wish I knew how to react. Honestly, I got cock blocked by a girl.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zero_sum
Basically she has not backed away nor have I made a move. However, last night was epic. It was my chance to shine and I neither blew it or took it. Thus the zero sum game.
Last night, everyone in our club went to a bonfire after our meeting. It was pretty chill for the most part. Everyone ate smores and drank lots of soda. Surprisingly everyone had a good time without alcohol except her. I'll get into that soon. We were taking pictures. I noticed she had an open spot next to her. I was like chance moment! So after we took pictures. I lied down behind the line of people. She was at the end of the line. I was chillin and watching the stars. She asked what I was doing and I said I was watching the stars...Anyway! She got a call, stood up and walked away. I was like...hm...When she came back. I could tell she was crying or at least she was disturbed. So she sat down in that "fetal position". I sat next to her and asked, "is everything alright?" She slightly nodded her head. Then I was like, "everything is not alright." Then, the girl sitting on her left was rubbing her back and asking her the same thing. The girl sitting next to her asked her if she wanted to go somewhere else and talk about it. She nodded and they left. I went into a fetal position facepalming myself. The two returned later and sat down. She kept to herself most of the night. Other guys asked what was wrong, but she didn't reply. I decided to give her space. Before I was leaving she asked someone for a smoke. She doesn't smoke, but she really wanted a drink or anything to relieve stress. I felt bad. So bad, that that night, I had a nightmare where I drank. It's not the worst thing you can think of, but I don't drink and I woke up feeling sad. I missed my chance to shine.
The next time I see her, I'm giving her a hug and asking how she is feeling. Then I'll be like we all care. I care. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you.
My lady friend told me the secret to women is when they trust you. This was my moment to shine. I wish I knew how to react. Honestly, I got cock blocked by a girl.
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