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| On the other hand, someone shy like you could say, "Hi, I'm <your name> and I would like to get to know you." That's probably the better option since the fall is shorter, but the rewards are shorter as well because you might end up with a shaky friendship. |
Do not say that. It sounds awkward and sort of freaky.
Other than that, your advice seems great, Zev.
| QUOTE (OtterWater @ Oct 30 2007, 11:21 PM) |
| Do not say that. It sounds awkward and sort of freaky. Other than that, your advice seems great, Zev. |
Well it's an awkward position to start with in the first place. I never found myself in the same situation. So, yeah...but it's better than saying nothing.
| QUOTE (Baltarded @ Oct 30 2007, 11:58 PM) |
| You know what you should do? You should send her the link to this thread and she will see how much you would like to have her as a girlfriend. Also maybe you could get her interested in pokemon as well. |
If he did that, she would think he's desperate.
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 30 2007, 09:31 PM) |
| Correct you are. Now, how do I approach her w/out getting avoided and/or looking like a creep? Or should I go for someone else? |
If you're that easily deterred... I don't know what to say.
Depending on how confident you feel, try giving it a couple of days before you approach her again. If you're feeling not as "disturbed" try talking to her sooner.
Also, are you sure she was looking at you when she commented? Maybe it was something beyond you. @___@
Just to throw it in there, some girls can be really "testy" as in they'll push you to see how far you'll go before you break, breaking being the point where you give up if you reach that point. Honestly, I used to shove guys I liked around because it was a way of breaking that "bubble" and allowing me some form of physical contact without seeming too suspicious; however, I'm a tomboy, so I can play "roughly" more easily than others. Or I'd stare down a guy to see if he could handle a harsh gaze or just scrutiny in general, which might have made him feel uncomfortable/think I'm weird.
Basically, don't let one little event permanently mark your standing. There will be more to come.
No, I swear, it was right at me. She glances at me, I glance at her, she goes, "Ew" and quickly turns away. I was a little saddened.
EDIT: Got both posts. K, so I'm not gonna give up. I'll give it a day, or two before I approach her. Luckily my friend's locker is situated right next to her, so I can easily drop by.
EDIT: Got both posts. K, so I'm not gonna give up. I'll give it a day, or two before I approach her. Luckily my friend's locker is situated right next to her, so I can easily drop by.
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 31 2007, 03:31 AM) |
| Correct you are. Now, how do I approach her w/out getting avoided and/or looking like a creep? Or should I go for someone else? |
Esotu's post is godly. Think of it as a war (I know I'm going to get hammered by Esotu for saying this). You can't let the girl win (and this). She like to test you and push you to the limit. By running away, that shows she wins and you're just a coward. "All is fair in love and war."
With the third girl I went for, I sat next to where she usually sits. When she came in, she sat in the row below. Then my friend came in and started laughing and pointing at me saying, "OWNED!" in front of her. As ashamed as I was, I was not discouraged. Once I got a chance to talk to her, we found we had some things in common and eventually built upon that. Ultimately, I got her number.
Anyway, the point was, you can't let one event discourage you as Esotu said. If you want to approach her without looking like a creep, you should have the mentality of looking for an old friend. Let's say you see your old friend in the hall. Just run and up and talk to your friend. You need no excuse for saying hi do you? Exactly! If she's busy with something, don't bother her and make sure she doesn't see you. However, if she's not busy, just say, "what's up 'x'." It's not too hard man. You just lack courage.
Going for someone else not only ruins your chances with her, but that also ruins your chances with the someone else. If one of them finds out you're interested in someone else, she tells her and you lose both chances. If you want, go for it. Just make sure you let "x" knows you're not serious anymore.
As I said before, it's war. It's never over until she says, "no." In which case you win because you have the satisfaction of not giving up and you gain experience for the next girl.
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 31 2007, 04:51 AM) |
| No, I swear, it was right at me. She glances at me, I glance at her, she goes, "Ew" and quickly turns away. I was a little saddened. |
It ain't over man, don't chicken out.
While I already go out with, I can name about 4-5 girls that like (as in want to go out with me) me. I think it mainly falls onto my attitude. Say I like this girl named Rachel (random name) but she doesn't like me. What I would do is listen to people talk to her (but not all up in her buisness, but sit at her table, make sure you make conversation so you DON'T look like a loser), to see what she's interested in/her attitude. I would try to make conversation with one of my friends while she is near me about something that interests her (let's say clothes. I AM IN LOVE WITH THEM). So, a conversation would go:
(Scenario: After school, when the buses are pulling up)
Me: "Did you see those pair of Antiks that Malik had on today? yadayadayadayada (keep conversation going"
(If Rachel happens to be lsitening, she might join in the conversation, especially if one of your friends is someone she knows. )
GET THAT PHONE NUMBER!11!
Of course, I am not good at posting WoT, but I have my own style. A few tips (since she knows you like her):
Don't be shy
Try to actually talk to her. Get to know her. What's the worst that could happen
Please, don't make pokemon jokes >_>
When you actually get to know her, make light jokes about her. For example, one girl who like me is part asian. Since I know her and it doesn't seems as if I'm instigating, I say jokingly, "Yo, go home and cook me some ching-chong soup. (Yea, I know, a bit racist
) " Of coruse, I say it jokingly, and most people know that. Of course, that's just my personality and I can get away with saying something like that
EDIT: Even better since your friends locker is near hers. Go over there and talk to her friend about something she likes.
EDIT EDIT: Wow...I just read this over. i don't think I made any sense >_>
(Scenario: After school, when the buses are pulling up)
Me: "Did you see those pair of Antiks that Malik had on today? yadayadayadayada (keep conversation going"
(If Rachel happens to be lsitening, she might join in the conversation, especially if one of your friends is someone she knows. )
GET THAT PHONE NUMBER!11!
Of course, I am not good at posting WoT, but I have my own style. A few tips (since she knows you like her):
Don't be shy
Try to actually talk to her. Get to know her. What's the worst that could happen
Please, don't make pokemon jokes >_>
When you actually get to know her, make light jokes about her. For example, one girl who like me is part asian. Since I know her and it doesn't seems as if I'm instigating, I say jokingly, "Yo, go home and cook me some ching-chong soup. (Yea, I know, a bit racist
) " Of coruse, I say it jokingly, and most people know that. Of course, that's just my personality and I can get away with saying something like that EDIT: Even better since your friends locker is near hers. Go over there and talk to her friend about something she likes.
EDIT EDIT: Wow...I just read this over. i don't think I made any sense >_>
I swear, she avoids me at all costs. Since we all eat outside, she usually sits with her friends on one bench that is ALWAYS crowded. Remember, she's popular, I'm not.
Off topic, but I really need a hot actress for a school project. Just facial, so gimme suggestions pl0x.
EDIT: I don't know what she likes, I'm clueless.
Off topic, but I really need a hot actress for a school project. Just facial, so gimme suggestions pl0x.
EDIT: I don't know what she likes, I'm clueless.
So find a spot. I sit at a crowded table with a bunch of cornballs (nerds/geeks/losers) also trying to fit in and look popular and think they're cool without starting conversation or joining one at all. The difference is that you have a reason to sit there, and you're brave enough (I hope so) to start a conversation. And even if she doesn't like you like you like her (lol wut?), I'm pretty sure that a whole bunch of social outclasses (no offense, you basically said you are) swooned over her before but were too scared to make a move. The main reason why they aren't popular enough. So basically, don't be a coward.
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 31 2007, 05:02 AM) |
| I swear, she avoids me at all costs. Since we all eat outside, she usually sits with her friends on one bench that is ALWAYS crowded. Remember, she's popular, I'm not. Off topic, but I really need a hot actress for a school project. Just facial, so gimme suggestions pl0x. EDIT: I don't know what she likes, I'm clueless. |
FIND OUT!
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 31 2007, 05:14 AM) |
| Quick, I need a hot actress for an image for a project tomorrow! Shitballs, I need it. chewman, I am a nerd. I am stereotyped as one and treated as one. Urgh, and to think I'm smarter than most of them. |
So build your social status up. Seriously. And really, if you don't look like a fool and talk about video games and books 24/7, you will be classified as a nerd. Of course, most people would say "be who you are". Well FUCK that. You're trying to pick up a girl here. BTW, watch The PickUp Artist.....seriously.
EDIT: Jessica Alba
A: Have some confidence in yourself. Sure, you might get shot down, but you'll never know 'till you give it a shot.
B: Don't be afraid to talk. Make some conversation. If it moves to a subject you know nothing about, don't be afraid to keep quiet and listen, and maybe come in if you've got an insight. Most of all, try and find some common ground, something the two of you share.
C: Alright, so you're not so popular. Last I checked, this sort of thing isn't a popularity contest. Forget that everyone thinks you're a nerd or whatever. And if she won't go out with you just because you're not popular, then she's not even worth going after. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
D: Just be yourself. Don't try to impress. If you do, you won't be able to keep it up or you'll embarrass yourself. If she goes out with you, she's going to find out just how much of you is real and how much is fake. Honesty has, in my experience, always been the policy. EDIT: Looking above at Chewman, I see I've screwed up somewhere. I'm not saying "Be yourself." I meant to just say "Don't say anything you can't do or can't back up."
E: You're in high school, right? Come on. Nobody's really serious about anything in high school. If she blows you off, who gives a damn? Sure, it'll smart for a while, but it's really not the end of the world. Humans consistently overestimate their ability to feel the bad, and underestimate their ability to see the good. If she rejects you, walk away and take a breather. Maybe cry into your pillow that night. On the weekend, just relax and maybe buy yourself something nice to eat or go see a movie with your friends. And then just think back on it and say, "Whatever. Past is past!"
F: There's my $0.02. I hope it helps, man.
B: Don't be afraid to talk. Make some conversation. If it moves to a subject you know nothing about, don't be afraid to keep quiet and listen, and maybe come in if you've got an insight. Most of all, try and find some common ground, something the two of you share.
C: Alright, so you're not so popular. Last I checked, this sort of thing isn't a popularity contest. Forget that everyone thinks you're a nerd or whatever. And if she won't go out with you just because you're not popular, then she's not even worth going after. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
D: Just be yourself. Don't try to impress. If you do, you won't be able to keep it up or you'll embarrass yourself. If she goes out with you, she's going to find out just how much of you is real and how much is fake. Honesty has, in my experience, always been the policy. EDIT: Looking above at Chewman, I see I've screwed up somewhere. I'm not saying "Be yourself." I meant to just say "Don't say anything you can't do or can't back up."
E: You're in high school, right? Come on. Nobody's really serious about anything in high school. If she blows you off, who gives a damn? Sure, it'll smart for a while, but it's really not the end of the world. Humans consistently overestimate their ability to feel the bad, and underestimate their ability to see the good. If she rejects you, walk away and take a breather. Maybe cry into your pillow that night. On the weekend, just relax and maybe buy yourself something nice to eat or go see a movie with your friends. And then just think back on it and say, "Whatever. Past is past!"
F: There's my $0.02. I hope it helps, man.
Yeah man, going up and sitting in the crowd at least shows her you're not too scared to sit with the "popular" kids. Be yourself. When I say that, don't talk about pokemon, but don't say anything to drastic like you break or something as Thelonius said. For a down to Earth example, let's say she asks you for help on homework. Even if you know the material, say, "I know enough of it" or "I know most of it". So even when she comes to a problem that you don't know, at least you can say, "that was something I didn't know." In addition, it doesn't make you look cocky.
Kay, so, I'm starting to like another girl as well. Besides, this one, I've discovered, isn't as sweet as she looks, and I'd rather have someone smarter. As I've read, the highest grapes are also the most sour. I might go for someone else, who is cuter, but is easier to talk to, etc. Any ideas on if I should go for someone else?
[quote]Besides, this one, I've discovered, isn't as sweet as she looks, and I'd rather have someone smarter.[/quote]
Um...no...
Anyway, if I were you, I'd go with the one I have the best chance with. Just play the field and if you find that moment (and I know you will), take it.
Um...no...
Anyway, if I were you, I'd go with the one I have the best chance with. Just play the field and if you find that moment (and I know you will), take it.
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