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argh, I'm finding myself in an unfavorable, odd position. I'm starting to like this one girl, but I'm classified as a "nerd/geek/whatever", have no chance of asking her out, and (get this) I'm completely antisocial, and very shy at that.
Now, I'm just starting to finally bloom to the outside world, but I'm only taking my first steps. You guys probably have some experience, do you mind helping?
Also, this is my real self. On these forums, I'm outgoing, and bold, but in reality, I'm like this:
I'm antisocial.
I'm shy.
I don't know how to start a good conversation to save my life.
I'm not very courageous, and certainly not crazy, like that one daredevil in every school.
Any help?
Now, I'm just starting to finally bloom to the outside world, but I'm only taking my first steps. You guys probably have some experience, do you mind helping?
Also, this is my real self. On these forums, I'm outgoing, and bold, but in reality, I'm like this:
I'm antisocial.
I'm shy.
I don't know how to start a good conversation to save my life.
I'm not very courageous, and certainly not crazy, like that one daredevil in every school.
Any help?
humor is probably the best way. I was like that until like 7th grade. don't act too serious, but not immature. You can start conversations with stuff that anybody would like (recent movies, music, class etc). no need to be courageous, oh and don't call anything stupid unless she does (unless you like it, but in that case say that its not that bad instead of saying you like it). keep mild emotions.
Huh. I know we tend to form opinions about people with very little actual knowledge of them, but not everyone is like that. What I was trying to say is that he shouldn't beat himself up over this whole thing.
And there are girls who go for geeks. I hang out with them (girls and geeks), and it happens.
And there are girls who go for geeks. I hang out with them (girls and geeks), and it happens.
I say just find something on your own that makes you seem funny in your own way.
When people say anything to me I just exagerate everything....They say "hi" and I go "EH!" and then give them the biggest goofiest smiles and a high five.
Hard to explain really, I just have an always cheery smiley mood which I guess people like.
Funny thing is one of my friends is extremely popular just because he is so weird. He weres skinny jeans and wears his grandpa clothes or stuff he got from a thrift store.
So my best advice is laugh. Be cheery, happy, weird expressions can get a laugh.
If you have a lame teacher, bring that up to whoever you talk to. Say how stupid he is sometimes or something.
Hang out with your friends, they talking to someone they don't know. Join in the conversation yourself. Don't stand there just looking ackward.
Is your high school team still in season? Show up to those games too with your friends.
Ask if you want anymore. It is sometimes hard to explain how I do, but really if want to ask anymore just say.
Didn't realize I typed to much. Kind of took it too far.
When people say anything to me I just exagerate everything....They say "hi" and I go "EH!" and then give them the biggest goofiest smiles and a high five.
Hard to explain really, I just have an always cheery smiley mood which I guess people like.
Funny thing is one of my friends is extremely popular just because he is so weird. He weres skinny jeans and wears his grandpa clothes or stuff he got from a thrift store.
So my best advice is laugh. Be cheery, happy, weird expressions can get a laugh.
If you have a lame teacher, bring that up to whoever you talk to. Say how stupid he is sometimes or something.
Hang out with your friends, they talking to someone they don't know. Join in the conversation yourself. Don't stand there just looking ackward.
Is your high school team still in season? Show up to those games too with your friends.
Ask if you want anymore. It is sometimes hard to explain how I do, but really if want to ask anymore just say.
Didn't realize I typed to much. Kind of took it too far.
Ugh, I have girl problems too. Anyway, be yourself because that's the most important thing. Being funny is always good. Being shy is one thing, but make sure you don't do nothing (yes, I know double negative). If you do, you'll find out that you lost your chance with her. I know this is weird, but don't be too nice. If you are, she'll think you just want to be friends. Talk to her (and about her) a lot and get her number. The getting the number part is the place where I always get stuck on...
My ultimate facepalm moment was when I was basically in with this girl. She asked me to walk with her to her class since we have the same class. I did something stupid and raced her to class. Sometimes, I facepalm myself because of that stupid decision. The lesson is really think before you act. Right now with this one girl, I told her I was a Quantitative Economics major, then I asked her for help later in Economics. She thought that was weird because I should be super smart in Economics with a hard major like that. In fact, I didn't really need help. So, I was caught in the act.
My ultimate facepalm moment was when I was basically in with this girl. She asked me to walk with her to her class since we have the same class. I did something stupid and raced her to class. Sometimes, I facepalm myself because of that stupid decision. The lesson is really think before you act. Right now with this one girl, I told her I was a Quantitative Economics major, then I asked her for help later in Economics. She thought that was weird because I should be super smart in Economics with a hard major like that. In fact, I didn't really need help. So, I was caught in the act.
| QUOTE (Truthiness @ Oct 26 2007, 03:19 PM) |
| When people say anything to me I just exaggerate everything....They say "hi" and I go "EH!" and then give them the biggest goofiest smiles and a high five. |
Heh, I hate to say it, but that is exactly like this guy at my school called Clifford. Everyone knows him because he thinks he's friends with everyone and he goes around talking gangsta and calling out to all his friends, unaware that they're all mocking him.
But I doubt it's the same case with you unless you, like Clifford, have cross-eyes and are mentally retarded. And smell bad.
As for your problem Bobblyhead, I'm not sure exactly how to help. Most girls I've wanted to talk to I haven't had a problem getting close to and having a conversation with. If you know anyone that's friends with this girl, you could join a conversation between them, and perhaps others, and her. Just be careful not to seem intrusive and don't be an asshole. Shouldn't be difficult if you're somewhat shy.
heh, your description of yourself sounds a bit like me. things are so much easier to say in text than aloud, huh? 
yeah, I'd advise against lying, or you might get into a situation like Zev's. although I think it would have been much worse if he wasn't a "Quantitative Economics major"...er, you are, right? >_>
yeah, I'd advise against lying, or you might get into a situation like Zev's. although I think it would have been much worse if he wasn't a "Quantitative Economics major"...er, you are, right? >_>
| QUOTE (Dantmotckc @ Oct 26 2007, 08:22 PM) |
| yeah, I'd advise against lying, or you might get into a situation like Zev's. although I think it would have been much worse if he wasn't a "Quantitative Economics major"...er, you are, right? >_> |
What? I'm a Quantitative Economics major and in Econ20A, I asked her for help on a problem, but she remembered I was a Quantitative Economics major and I shouldn't need help. I did do one thing right though.
In class, she asked me if I was going to a house party and I said, "I'm busy, I might go later." Then she replied, "I'm not going." A minute later, her friend came in the class and sat next to me and asked the same question. I replied with the same answer. The point is, don't change your answer.
It really depends on what kind of nerd/geek you are. Actually, being a nerd/geek doesn't really matter. It's your personality. If you're enjoyable on the internet, if you can get pass that "wall" that's blocking your way, then your internet life will be pretty similar to your real life. That's my opinion, I have no problem with girls. I wouldn't say I'm a "nerd/geek" but I'm one of the smartest in the school (I'm not saying I am, but I'm around top 20 or so). My personality is pretty likable, but I act myself. Never try to be someone you're not.
| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 26 2007, 11:01 PM) |
| Yeah, now I'm getting advice from my IRL friends to get new shoes, a Jansport backpack (though I don't see whats wrong with mine), work out moar, etc. I might have to not spend as much time here. Any more help? |
Smoke lots of weed maybeh?
No I'm kidding. Errr, hang out more, and go to a few parties?| QUOTE (bobblyhead @ Oct 26 2007, 11:11 PM) |
I hang out a bit more. Just that I'm stereotyped as a nerd, and thus ignored. Parties, yeah, I go occasionally. She never pays attention to me though. |
You don't need to change who you are. If you want her to pay attention to you, then talk to her more. Show some courage and make an attempt. The best advice next to telling you not to take advice is have courage. I've seen some of the geekiest guys get the hottest girls because they have courage to ask them out.
To elaborate on the second best advice, don't take advice from other people when it comes to some stuff. Of course you can ask something like "what should I do after I get her number", but don't ask your friends or people here what you should say in so and so situation. If you do go through with it, then in the end, your friends will be dating her, not you. Just believe in what you think and go for it, but it isn't wrong to ask if what you think you should is right or not.
Yeah, I need to lose wait though tbh. I'm like, 4 pounds overweight (and have been putting on a 'lil chub) and i can't run an 8 min mile to save my life.
argh, and i'm having trouble asking, because, again, i'm not all that courageous. it looks quite easy, but is very, very hard, lol. i'm not the most athletic, and i could try to look a little better.
besides, gossip just happened, etc.
argh, and i'm having trouble asking, because, again, i'm not all that courageous. it looks quite easy, but is very, very hard, lol. i'm not the most athletic, and i could try to look a little better.
besides, gossip just happened, etc.
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