Forums · How honest/open are you online?
I find it funny how some people will bare all online, while others are extremely paranoid and won't expose their real selves at all. Personally, I'm not one to lie or hide anything at all, because I don't see the point. I mean, you're a bunch of people I'll probably never meet, so I have nothing to fear in real life (although I'm equally open and honest and blunt in real life too, but that's a different story). I have no problem sharing my life story with anyone that's interested. Full name? Fine. Pics? No problem. Want my phone number for some reason? Just hit me up on AIM/MSN or via PM. I'm a very trusting person, and I think the world would be better off if everyone was this trusting.
If you're open and honest online, what is it that makes you feel safe exposing yourself like that?
If you're secretive and guarded online, why don't you trust us enough to be honest?
If you're open and honest online, what is it that makes you feel safe exposing yourself like that?
If you're secretive and guarded online, why don't you trust us enough to be honest?
If anything, I'd think you'd feel safer talking about real life to people on line. We don't know you and we don't know anyone connected to you, so there's no risk of gossip, no grudges to bear. If you don't get along with someone online, you never have to talk to that person again. Look at Daneiru... He didn't like me, so he left and never came back. In real life, it might be someone you see every day, so you might not have the luxury of avoiding that person if you don't get along. Squicks, you intrigue me more than most others because you don't even make a show of "hiding" your real life the way Ruesap does. You're just the most straightforward liar I know on TLF. >_>
I like to think that I'm really open online, mainly on IRC, which I really consider to be a place to just relax and talk a bit about random stuff. I don't have a problem giving people personal information at all, except for stuff like phone numbers. But that's pretty much the only thing I'm not willing to share. I kinda share TPX's vision: it's very likely I won't meet any of you in real life anyway, so I don't have a problem with telling you a lot about myself, things I may not even tell my real life friends. A phone number just crosses the line a bit IMO. But like I said, I'm pretty sure I'll tell you just about everything else you want to know.
As for why I am so open, there are two reasons I think that play a role:
1) What TPX said
2) The amount of friends I have in real life is somewhat limited, mainly due to the fact I don't share many of their interests, so if they plan to do something together, it's not very rare for me to stay behind (although this has resulted into me getting left behind when they were going to do fun stuff as well...). The thing is, no one in my class or school even seems to like Pokemon (and yes, I do know that for sure because my school is really pretty small (not more than 600 students at max)). In here, everyone at least takes interest in pokemon, which already gives us a common hobby. On top of that, the internet is mainly based upon talking to each other: there's no going out, no cinema, no disco, pretty much every part of a "friendship" over the internet is based on talking to each other and that's something I don't have a problem with at all.
As for why I am so open, there are two reasons I think that play a role:
1) What TPX said
2) The amount of friends I have in real life is somewhat limited, mainly due to the fact I don't share many of their interests, so if they plan to do something together, it's not very rare for me to stay behind (although this has resulted into me getting left behind when they were going to do fun stuff as well...). The thing is, no one in my class or school even seems to like Pokemon (and yes, I do know that for sure because my school is really pretty small (not more than 600 students at max)). In here, everyone at least takes interest in pokemon, which already gives us a common hobby. On top of that, the internet is mainly based upon talking to each other: there's no going out, no cinema, no disco, pretty much every part of a "friendship" over the internet is based on talking to each other and that's something I don't have a problem with at all.
I am honest majority of the time; but when I get really uncomfortable, I tend to lie to get out of it. Open, not really. I've learn not too long ago not to let out all my secrets in one basket, in particular online. The results were conclusive enough for me to assume that being that open is a mistake.
Talk about Pokemon? Yes. Joke around? Yes. Discuss my innermost thoughts and secrets? Heck no. Talk about my personal life? Only if I feel like it. In short, if you are someone I happen to trust quite a bit, you'll probably learn quite a bit about me personally. Otherwise, you'll only see the guarded version of myself; not too welcoming, not too cold.
Talk about Pokemon? Yes. Joke around? Yes. Discuss my innermost thoughts and secrets? Heck no. Talk about my personal life? Only if I feel like it. In short, if you are someone I happen to trust quite a bit, you'll probably learn quite a bit about me personally. Otherwise, you'll only see the guarded version of myself; not too welcoming, not too cold.
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